tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-152264461129808248.post4742778502436593769..comments2023-11-03T04:51:35.649-04:00Comments on I Thought Unicorns Were a Myth: Pins and Needles and Family SurprisesKH99http://www.blogger.com/profile/03103965236771370684noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-152264461129808248.post-8151688590283203512008-11-08T10:09:00.000-05:002008-11-08T10:09:00.000-05:00I know where you are coming from. I want people t...I know where you are coming from. I want people to acknowledge my situation, but I don't want to be excluded, and I know it can be hard for people to figure out how to walk that line. I was terribly hurt when my SIL decided to share her pregnancy news and just "pretend" that she didn't know about my past years of trying or my current FET cycle. But I'm sure I also would have been hurt if the rest of family knew and they didn't share it with me. My motto is, "share, but be considerate."<BR/><BR/>As for the other pregnancies in the family: remember they really have nothing to do with whether or not your will succeed. On the bright side, your child will have lots of cousins to play with around the same age, right? Good luck with the ultrasound!Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02799401502134619497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-152264461129808248.post-34512609670223739752008-11-08T00:35:00.000-05:002008-11-08T00:35:00.000-05:00That's funny-- I, too, had a heap of cousins all g...That's funny-- I, too, had a heap of cousins all get pregnant the same time I did, and I, too, thought "Will every single one of us make it out ok?" And, though my baby and I had a horrible pregnancy and premature birth, here we all are with all the cousins, all fine. As for your odds in your group, you've got a veteran babymaking uterus on your side-- a very good thing. <BR/><BR/>Also... I am new to blogging and am thinking I might have overstepped blogging etiquette by linking to people in my very first post, without asking first (if so, oops.. sorry). I linked to you; I can't remember how I first landed on your blog (late nights of pumping and clicking) but I enjoy your writing and have come to care about how you are doing! Would it be OK if I listed your blog among my links?<BR/><BR/>SusannaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-152264461129808248.post-90170300392167916782008-11-07T10:16:00.000-05:002008-11-07T10:16:00.000-05:00I know I still have those dark feelings whenever I...I know I still have those dark feelings whenever I hear that someone else is pregnant -- that somehow the fact that she's pregnant makes it less likely that our baby will make it. I know it's irrational, but I just can't help it.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-152264461129808248.post-65177027326708737882008-11-06T20:53:00.000-05:002008-11-06T20:53:00.000-05:00I hear you (my imagination can go to those dark pl...I hear you (my imagination can go to those dark places too). I've also been in that similar awkward position of everyone seems to know except me because they're afraid I might crumble into pieces if I find out. But you've got a great thing going on here and I'm sending all kinds of positive stuff your way for the u/s tomorrow. Have a great appointment and a great lunch and enjoy your afternoon! And then post as soon as you can cause I'll be on the edge of my seat! I need photos!! :)Sandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04353563932181143309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-152264461129808248.post-63187318800360428582008-11-06T17:03:00.000-05:002008-11-06T17:03:00.000-05:00Your feeling about your cousin are totally normal-...Your feeling about your cousin are totally normal--the sensitive barrier is a hard one to deal with. And I am so excited for the u/s update tomorrow-have been thinking about you!JJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18027548058304720360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-152264461129808248.post-83844073189293509182008-11-06T16:19:00.000-05:002008-11-06T16:19:00.000-05:00I think it's a good strategy to focus on the here ...I think it's a good strategy to focus on the here and now. Just remember that most of the time, everything is fine. I'm sure everything will look fine on the ultrasound tomorrow and I will be waiting on pins and needles for an update. Good luck!Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08188110112312139648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-152264461129808248.post-24616447863554939292008-11-06T15:25:00.000-05:002008-11-06T15:25:00.000-05:00I think you're probably right that your mom's hear...I think you're probably right that your mom's heart was (at least this time) in the right place, though yeah. No one likes to be the last to know. And how awesome- 4 babies all at the same time! But I can understand your feelings about wondering if it really will work out for everyone. Truthfully, though, I have to believe that of course it will work out for everyone. Of course it will. Statistically speaking, there's no reason why all four won't be just fine. You may feel that you are the worst, the lowest (which I totally get in a big fat "me, too" kind of way), but you have paid your dues. You have paid off whatever instant karma might have lead you to be the one who didn't make it. You want this badly enough that you are willing to pay (I mean financially, but emotionally as well, I'm sure) to see this dream come true. How many of the rest of them can say that? (That all sounds weird- what I mean is that despite feeling like the lowest, you've worked really hard to be at this point, so there's no reason to think that you are still somehow unworthy of this happiness)<BR/><BR/>Anyhow, best of luck with your migration. I've seen a few companies through the (sometimes years long) process of making a major data migration. There's always the feeling that things will be so much better afterward, but you always wonder while you're in the middle of it whether those benefits are really worth the incredible hassle! So yeah. Even the minor migrations (an updated version of the same data management system) are still a pain. I feel for you- Good luck for no major issues with the migration!katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08056463808792013011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-152264461129808248.post-88996805831303708392008-11-06T14:30:00.000-05:002008-11-06T14:30:00.000-05:00I totally understand your feelings. It's so hard b...I totally understand your feelings. It's so hard because you want people to be sensitive, but then it hurts when they are "so" sensitive that you are the last to know. I was at a family dinner once when someone accidentally mentioned a family friend's pregnancy. I was like, "omg, I didn't know she was pregnant!" thinking that it was news to all. Everyone got really quiet and then I realized: I was the only one who didn't know. It was embarrassing and saddening. I'm really sorry that happened to you. All you can do is focus on your WONDERFUL news, that you are having a baby after all the chaos. Can't wait to hear about your next u/s...I'm sure it will be great.Nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04748630470893294294noreply@blogger.com