Tuesday, May 6, 2008

Off to a Good Start

May is already going better than April though I hesitated to write that in case I jinxed it. I heard from F, our surro, yesterday, and she had the lump removed and biopsied, and it was a limpoma (fatty tissue) after all. Whew! Yay! One hurdle cleared.

Unfortunately, we did not receive the contract last week. Husband called the attorney and the attorney's paralegal said that they were under the impression that time wasn't of the essence since we couldn't do anything until June?!?! Okkkkk. We could begin testing! So they hope to have something to us this week.

My best friend had her baby on Sunday after a normal labor. Husband and I went to see her yesterday, and the baby is adorable. I was worried I wouldn't be able to handle it, but I was. I sure hope that this time next year our roles are reversed. I've been keeping J, my other friend, apprised of the situation, and I bet she's probably noting all the things I've done for K (going to her shower, visiting her in the hospital) that I didn't do for her. I know I would be. I want to say something to reiterate that I am in a different place now than I was when she was pg, but I don't know if that's a good idea or if I should just leave it alone.

Oh, my projects are turned in, and I am reveling in free time!


Samantha said...

Glad May is turning out better, at least so far. Since you're asking for assvice, I'd be frank with your friend. You could simply say, "I'm surprised that I've felt as comfortable as I have about K's situation. I'm sorry I was in a much more difficult place when you were pregnant." You could even add, "I feel guilty I wasn't able to do more for you." If she's a good friend, she'll understand.

kate said...

It sounds like May is shaping up to treat you a lot better than April.

And I think it's perfectly reasonable to explain to J that you are just in a different, more difficult spot than you were before. I mean, you can certainly make it clear that you wish her the best and that you would support her in the same way if you could, but that right now is not the time when you are able to do those things. Surely she will understand.

nutmeg96 said...

Yeah, I never know what to say, either. If she's a good friend, she'll understand no matter what you come up with.

sara said...

I'm so glad it wasn't anything serious for your surrogate and that she's going to be okay! I can't wait for you to get your contract so you can start testing. Does she live close to you guys? Free time is the best, isn't it? Especially when it comes around the summer months. I hope you get to do some fun and relaxing things.

Kymberli said...

Firstly, I'm glad to hear that all is well with your surrogate and that you'll have the contract soon. Hopefully things won't be too haywire in that department and there won't be many, if any, adjustments that need to be made.

I think that Samantha has given good advice where your friend is concerned. I think she will see that you really care if you bring up that you have noticed the difference between your reactions then and now, and hopefully she will understand even more that it had more to do with you than it did with her.

Finally, huge congratulations for winning the award!