Thursday, February 7, 2008

More suffering

There is a fellow local IFer I met on a message board a few years ago with whom I became friendly before either of us knew we were dealing with IF. We both cycled at the same clinics, and she became pg from her first IVF. She has hinted all along that some things haven't been progressing completely well with her baby's development and her fluid, but she didn't go into details. At 30 weeks they put her on bed rest in the hospital with the hope of her making it to 34 weeks, which she did. Last Thursday she gave birth to a baby girl. Today she told us that her baby's kidneys aren't functioning at all. I don't know what that means. I don't know what the prognosis is, but my heart goes out to her. Just as I can't imagine the horrific pain of a late pregnancy loss, I cannot imagine what it feels like to carry your baby knowing that the baby will have significant problems when it is born. My friend mentioned a month or two ago that she has been so depressed that she couldn't even get up the energy to prepare the nursery.

Again I ask...why is so much pain heaped on the same people over and over? Like many IFers, this much-wanted baby was the result of many years of IF. At what point is your bucket of suffering full?

Please keep my friend and her family in your thoughts.

5 comments:

Ellen K. said...

I'm sorry for your friend. How awful. The sadness and anger online lately is almost overwhelming.

niobe said...

The world is so incredibly cruel. It breaks our hearts again and again.

Samantha said...

I'm sorry for your friend. The world is cruel.

K77 said...

It seems IFs get handed a bottomless bucket.

sara said...

I'm so sorry...I'll be praying for her..thanks for your nice comments also.